Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
A continuation of 30 days of kink
- Kink attracts people from all walks of life. There isn’t a business sector I know of, that I haven’t met someone in the scene who’s involved.
- Kink appeals across the ages too : both physical ages in the present, and throughout the ages of history.
- There are of course assholes in the scene, just as there are out of the scene. But the loud vocal minority do not represent the larger great majority.
- To be kinky, you do not have to have had a troubled childhood.
- Not everyone lives kink 24/7. Some people just do it in the bedroom, and sometimes they have sex without any kink at all!
- Not every guy in the scene is an overweight balding sweaty guy who works in politics, and has to visit a professional Dominatrix each week to get his fix.
- If the guy is a sub they don’t always wear a gimp mask.
- If the guy is a Dom, they don’t always wear a leather waistcoat and have a goatee beard.
- Not every female Domme in the scene has the body of a model, wearing a tight catsuit and wielding a leather riding crop.
- Not every female sub wants to be manhandled and propositioned by strangers, especially in public.
- Virtually no woman who posts a picture of her ass on FetLife, is going to invite a random stranger with no profile, to come to her place, because he posted a comment of “what he’d do to that body if he was there”.
- Sending out 2,000 cut and pasted messages to everyone you can find, without reading any profiles, is not going to bring you the intended reward you seek.
- Just because a scene is happening in a ‘public’ (private) event, does not mean you can join in too without a prior invitation.
- Not everyone in the scene is in an open/poly relationship.
- ‘Nice guys’ can also make excellent Tops/Doms.
- My kink may not be your kink, but you don’t always have to share your opinion with me about it.
- if you like to be tied up, you like bondage. But that doesn’t mean you’re suddenly on the slippery slope to need to be cut and beaten too.
- The online FetLife community is not a dating site. Yes there are people who hook up as a result of the site (through munches, events, dating, etc.), but see point 12 above.