A continuation of 30 days of kink
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
I already have a superb partner. She’s amazing in so many ways, we’re incredibly compatible on so many levels. And it’s hard to imagine why I would be looking for anyone else : and effectively I’m not looking.
We do however have an open relationship. We do have the opportunities to each play with others to various levels, so play partners are an option.
What I look for in a potential play partner is not dissimilar to what I look for in someone who’s more than an acquaintance:
Honesty, respect of themselves and of others, a great smile, and a healthy outlook to life ; these are all very important to me.
Life will always be full of dramas and challenges. If there’s a trail of destruction behind you that you’re not willing to take any responsibility for, I’ll probably be looking to steer clear.
For play, obviously there needs to be a level of mutual attraction. Tactile people get extra points. Looking good in rope certainly helps.
I’ve been really fortunate to make real most of my fantasies, and I throughly enjoy helping others experience their fantasies too.
I’m looking for experiences that add to my life.
I have no issues with ‘service topping’ in following through a detailed range of elements from your own imagination, or playing within certain general ideas of what inspires you. This is a lot of fun for me (it helps narrow down the massive diversity of my imagination).
Just as I enjoy doing very much my own enjoyable things to beautiful people too (to pre-agreed levels of course).
And then there is of course the switchy side.
If you do have a particular fantasy in mind you think I may be able to help you with, we can talk more.
Similarly if you’d like to be part of some of my own fantasies becoming real, I can certainly get to know you better and keep you in mind.
In all cases, it’s important for me to get to spend time getting to know and trust you, finding out what what captures your attention, various elements of how your body and mind works, sharing of course how I like to do things, and how well we may be able to play together.