A continuation of 30 days of kink
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
BDSM has so many draws for me.
It heightens the senses, expands on trust, demands honesty, and continues to develop all those really useful things for a great and healthy relationship, or even just wonderful play partners.
I also love the contradictions BDSM provides:
- the massive amounts of intimacy BDSM provides (even though the misperception is often the opposite).
- for people who find it hard to let go and are always in control day-to-day : tie them up in such a way that they can’t do anything about anything, and they can final relax into the sensation and pleasure of the moment, relinquishing the control they’ve been holding on to so hard.
- for people that don’t like to make much noise during their pleasure, gag them so they can’t make any effective noise at all. In blocking their ability to verbalise words, they can stop trying to hold back what they say, and thus make all the noises that come naturally.
- for people who feel insecure about how they look, blindfold them so they can’t see you, and like an ostrich with it’s head in the sand, soon they’ll stop worrying about how they look, and instead feel more valued and beautiful than they may have done for a long time before.
- for people who’ve had troubles climaxing with a partner : tie them down, and then slowly and progressively increase their arousal. Build them up but don’t let them climax, and make it clear that you’re not going to let them climax either (and maybe you still won’t). After lots of sensual attention, there’s a good chance that soon they’ll be begging for the climax they’ve been so close to.
I feel comfortable with kink. It’s a part of who I am, and I don’t see that changing any time soon.